Motherhood is a blessing which has been given to us by Allah. It’s full of ups and downs, tears and laughs. At times tiring, other times energising. Let’s face it, being a mother is not easy… Specially during Ramadan, when all you want to do is a bow down to extra prayers, read at least a couple of pages from the Holy Quran and reap some reward as everybody else. But if you’re children are anything like mine…
Well then you’ll know that as soon as you stand up to prayer one them launches across in front while the other tries to climb from behind you. Or now is the perfect time to wrestle on the prayer mat or maybe practice those forward rolls?
Try opening the Quran to read…one will demand nature calls and the other will decide its perfect time to have a mega tantrum.
Iftar time… Just as I’m about to put that date in my mouth to break my fast.. time for toddler boy to wake up and need tending to. A drink of water or maybe a cuddle to go back to sleep.
Pre dawn meal… Groggily wake up with one eye open and try getting at least a glass of water, pray Fajr and hit the bed again before kids wake up. Lo and behold! At least one of your kids will wake up cranky and keep you awake way past Fajr!
And all the while I’m thinking how lax I am in my spiritual duties… Until I remembered this quote which really put everything into perspective for me today, I have read it many times before but today it had a bigger impact:
“When she has her first baby, she must manage for another life even more dependent on her personal sacrifices.
By the second, third, or fourth child, her days and nights belong almost entirely to others. Whether she has a spiritual path or not, such a mother can seldom resist a glance at the past, when there were more prayers, more meanings, more spiritual company, and more serenity.
When Allah opens her understanding, she will see that she is engaged in one of the highest forms of worship, that of producing new believers who love and worship Allah.
She is effectively worshipping Allah for as many lifetimes she has children, for the reward of every spiritual work her children do will be hers, without this diminishing anything of their own rewards: every ablution, every prayer, every Ramadan, every hajj, and even the works her children will in turn pass on to their offspring, and, so on till the end of time. Even if her children do not turn out as she wishes, she shall be requited in paradise forever according to her intention in raising them, which was that they should be godly.
Aside from the tremendous reward, within the path itself it is noticeable that many of those who benefit most from khalwa or ‘solitary retreat of dhikr’ are women who have raised children. With only a little daily dhikr and worship over the years, but much toil and sacrifice for others, they surpass many a younger person who has had more free time, effort, and ‘spiritual works.’
What they find is greater because their state with Allah is greater; namely, the awe, hope, and love of the Divine they have realized by years of sincerity to Him.”
~ Shaykh Nuh Ha Mim
After reading this beautiful quote I felt that missing piece fall into place. It was Almost as if God was telling me ‘I see you. I see the sacrifices you make every day. No act of kindness you’ve done,no last minute errand is too small for me to notice .”
Every effort and every intention made in carrying out to worship Him is rewarded. Because Allah our intentions.
I keep the right perspective when I see myself…‘ engaged in one of the highest forms of worship, that of producing new believers who love and worship Allah. She is effectively worshipping Allah for as many lifetimes she has children, for the reward of every spiritual work her children do will be hers, without this diminishing anything of their own rewards’
How absolutely spiritually motivating it is to know that!
Remember God sees, no effort goes unnoticed.
Remember that God gives His highest Mercy to mothers.
As mothers, we are building great people. And one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel, not only at what we have raised, but at the beauty that has been added to the world by the sacrifices of mothers that will carry forth to the Hereafter. Ameen